Category: Grief

Extending Kaylee’s legacy

When we lost our daughter last year, we were supported by hundreds of people, many of whom we barely knew or didn’t know at all. We ended up with gift money totaling over $700, presumably to either do something nice for ourselves or cover expenses related to Kaylee’s passing. Our expenses for Kaylee ended up [...]

Thursday September 20th, 2012 in Grief, Kaylee Hope | 5 Comments »

Remembering, forgetting, and welcoming life

I became an uncle twice last week! My sister and brother each had baby girls born 2 days apart on Thursday and Saturday. It’s the first child for each of them and we’re pretty excited that our kids will have a few more cousins close in age. I didn’t expect the happy occasion of these [...]

Monday November 21st, 2011 in Family, Grief, Kaylee Hope | 4 Comments »

Stillbirth is not miscarriage

Those who have not gone through a prenatal loss often lump all prenatal losses into the same category: “miscarriage.” We’ve heard things like, “How’s Jamie doing since the miscarriage?” or, “My friend had a miscarriage recently too.” Miscarriages are tremendously painful. My sister-in-law had 2 miscarriages last year and at Kaylee’s service, I noted that [...]

Monday April 25th, 2011 in Grief, Kaylee Hope, Stillbirth | 5 Comments »

The pain of survival stories

When you go through a significant loss, there’s nothing more helpful than the support of friends, family, and even strangers. While some well-intended comments aren’t very supportive, I try to remember that the intentions are good, and honestly, I’d rather people say something and have it be relatively unhelpful than say nothing at all out [...]

Tuesday April 12th, 2011 in Grief, Kaylee Hope | 2 Comments »

The closest we’ll get to hell

Jamie was talking to a friend at church who had read my post last week on moving on with life after Kaylee. She said to Jamie, “Maybe this is the closest we’ll ever get to hell.” A month ago I was talking to a friend of mine who lost his son at 28 weeks. He [...]

Tuesday April 5th, 2011 in Grief | 6 Comments »